Hi, my wife and I were there in March and here is a review of our experience.
To answer your questions.
1 - It does take time, ours was just over 4 hour and this was at the Chef’s Table. The time we walked out was 9:40pm.
2 - The Chef’s table is by far the hardest reservation to get at WDW. That said, the best thing to do is to call V&A directly. Tell them the dates you are looking at, which experiences you would like (I told them March 9 - 15, 2019, with the order of what we would like - the Chef’s Table, the Queen Victoria Room and lastly, the Main dining Room)
3 - We did not pair the wines, however did have 1 bottle of wine - a Moscato, which was $110
4 - You can do the Main Dining room and Queen Victoria room online at the Disney website. The Chef’s table, as stated above, must be called to V&A directly.
There were some changes that took place shortly before we dined there. The Main Dining room and the Queen Victoria room are now both 10 course meals for $235 per person plus tax and tip.
The Chef’s Table is $250 per person plus tax and tip.
The Main Dining room has 19 tables (2 people per table), the Queen Victoria room has 4 tables, also 2 per table and the Chef’s Table is for 2 to 8 people of which it is only one party so you don’t have to worry about sharing.
We were staying at the All Star Movies and used Lyft or Uber to get to and from the resort.
Even though we had not planned on doing any upgrades, I would highly suggest you at least budget it, just in case you decide to, as we did.
Something that guys may not know is wear a long sleeve shirt if you want to take off your Suit jacket.
The Chef’s Table was not available when I first called but I did call back and was able to get that. The first reservation we had was actually on 3/12 for the Queen Victoria Room.
Lastly, no matter which room you are able to get, enjoy the night. Take it all in. It was truly the most amazing dining experience either my wife or I have ever had. It will be hard to top V&A Chef’s Table.