I can relate. Wife here - love the TPs, even when we typically travel during the lower peak times. My DH was not a TP believer. Our last trip was with two DDs (9 and 5). First trip in memory for the 9Yo, first trip ever for the 5Yo. We went in early November; I planned.
Day 3 I convince everyone to RD at Epcot for Soarin’. (for some reason we did not have FP. I can’t remember why.) I bribed the children with ice cream and the spouse with Starbucks to get up that early and off we went. Everyone complains - “it’s so early, it’s so hot, I hate waiting.” Walked right on Soarin’ then rode it again 45 minutes later with a minimum wait. My family is starting to see the light from the algorithm.
Day 4 we go to AK. We stop at a character greeting spot. I casually mention that while yes, the wait is only 10 minutes, if we go do Ride A first which is a short walk away when we come back there will be no wait. My DH scoffs. We wait, meet Mickey and Minnie, go do Ride A, walk back - and guess what? No wait at the character greeting. My DH is impressed.
Day 5 we RD MK. My kids are fully on board now as is my DH. We walk on to 7DMT, then head over to BTMR where the 5Yo and the DH ride 5 times back to back in 30 minutes, just walking/ running around back on the ride. The 5yo is in heaven and to this day - 3 years later - proclaims that moment as one of the best days of her life. My DH is a changed man with respect to RD, TPs and the fine art of planning.
Sometimes family members need to see TPs and RDs firsthand to understand. You’ll wait at Disney, right, that’s a given. It’s how you wait and where you wait that makes the difference. And then having the extra time to do what you want.
We also spent a great afternoon at Epcot visiting all the countries with the girls and they loved it. No plan for that, it just happened and it’s a wonderful memory.