I’d like to get some advice about taking my 17-year-old nephew to Disney with us.
First, some background. I have a 20-year-old son with autism. Disney is his favorite place in all the world, and he has been wanting to take his cousin for a couple years. We generally RD everyday, and depending on the heat/crowds, he is usually done around 2pm each day. If the weather is good, (no rain or storms), he will sometimes return to a park in the evening. His favorite thing is meeting characters. He will ride most things except- TOT and HM (scary) or things that will get you wet like POC, Splash.
My DS really wants to share his favorite things with his cousin. We have been to Disney 10 times in the past 4 years. Other than my DH, no one has been with us the entire week, but we’ve had other family members come for 3-4 days of our trip. We have AP this year, so it seems like it is a good time to go. We have to go in July since my nephew cannot miss school and school breaks are too crowded for my DS.
We’ll be going the 2nd week in July. We have been in July and August once before so I have plans to deal with the heat (misting fans, AC breaks, cooling towels,etc). My niece (age 21) is paying for her ticket and my nephew’s ticket (her brother). They have a 6-day ticket, no park hopper. It will just be the 4 of us- me, DS, DN21, and DN17. I am paying for everything else- transportation, lodging, food, etc.
My nephew is a typical moody, somewhat self-centered & irresponsible, 17-year-old. He has lost or broken 3 smartphones in 3 years. He does not seem to have a good understanding that money is a finite resource. And he is severely lacking in the “showing gratitude” department. For these reasons, he cannot be trusted to go off and do things on his own. He can be great with my DS for short periods of time. Dn17 is a theater student and I think he will be happy to play along meeting characters. We are staying offsite so that we will have 3 bedrooms/3bathrooms to give everyone their own space when we return to the resort for a break. The resort has 3 pools, game room, basketball, etc, but guests under 18 must be accompanied by an adult over 21. But the downside is no transportation to the parks, except for my car & I am the only driver.
So here is what I’m thinking for my strategies.
We have a park plan everyday that includes RD, Fast Passes, lunch or brunch character meal, then a break at the resort. Luckily, everyone is ok with getting up early. Within the plan, there are times that my DN & DN can go and ride or do something my DS will not do. I will go over these plans with my nephew so he will know what to expect.
I will encourage my nephew to bring his PlayStation in case he needs entertainment in his room at the resort.
My niece has offered to stay at the resort with my DS if he is tired one or two of the nights so I can take DN back to the park and do things he wants to do as she does not like roller coasters.
I have also offered to pay for Uber or Lyft to take them back to the park if my DS does not want to go, but my DN21 is from a rural area & is uncomfortable using those services (even though her brother will be there). Also neither of them have a credit card. I admit that I have never used the service. Do you have to have a credit card? Can you pay for a ride for someone else?
Any ideas or suggestions?