Here’s how I work it:
We only get to go to the House of Mouse every two to three years. We only go during two time frames (as a teacher they are really all I have available because I’ve lived in Florida in the summer and I’m not doing for a vacation!!)
We go in December (our favorite time) which is my birth month. II wear a button. I am truly celebrating my birthday by spending a couple of thousand dollars on one of my happy places. If I get magic (cupcakes or ice cream) I’m thrilled. I doubt the restaurants are on a “celebratory cupcake” limit so I’m probably not taking a cupcake away from someone eles… The "Happy Birthday"s I get from CM and other guests just brighten my day and I doubt the CMs are on a greeting limit so I’m not taking anything away from anyone.
We go in October, usually less than a month from our anniversary in September. I usually get buttons then because in the years when we go see Goofy in October, we usually don’t do an anniversary celebration, saving our pennies for the smushed penny machines. I’ve never gotten any extra magic for an anniversary button except for the wonderful “Happy Anniversary” and “Congratulations” wishes. Oh, and the one Photopass photographer who took some great special pics of just my wonderful DW and I.
There are times to get upset, like the famous expired refillable mug issue which, thankfully, is no longer an issue. Stealing magic from other guests or from Disney is not cool. But magic handed out for buttons really is tiny, its not taking away from anyone else’s enjoyment and it brightens my trip. So I have, do and will continue to wear my celebratory button proudly next to my “I wait less with Lines. NeedaTurkeyLeg” button!